Tomorrow is Valentines Day. The lovers holiday. As a kid, I remember sitting around the table writing valentines for my classmates for the big exchange. In high school we were able to buy that special someone a rose and have it delivered.
Perhaps it’s the spirit of things. Like the song says, “if everyday could be just like Christmas, what a wonderful world it would be”. And if we could treat our partners everyday like we treat them on Valentines Day, wouldn’t the world be brimming with love?
As anyone that is married or in long term relationships knows, the road of being together is hard. It’s full of peaks and valleys. There is sunshine and rain, smiles and tears. My marriage is no different, it’s full of everything that makes it tough and beautiful. Sometimes I’m the better part of it, but that is rare. Usually its my wife. Tamra is the better part of me, and reminds me through her actions,that the world doesn’t revolve around me. That love is giving. She makes me happy that there is a Valentines Day, but more importantly, makes me happy that I have everyday to love her a little better.
Many years ago someone gave me some advice that had been passed down to her. This persons Mother said “Whatever you do to get someone, you have to continue doing the same things to keep them”. I thought that was really good and while I have strayed from that principle in my life and rested on comfort, that sage advice blows through my life now more than ever. So I keep trying, not always achieving, but trying to make every day like Valentines.
“We’ve got everything we need- I’ve got your two lips and you’ve got mine
And our four lips can be kissing- if you’ll be my valentine
On this moonlit night- you know its only right
That its your heart and mine
Cupid didn’t miss- when I asked him this
Can you stop her heart on a dime
And make her always be my valentine
used by permission Glenn Simmons Music/ 2008